Now more then ever, in a world dominated by technology, people are experiencing feelings of disconnection, anxiety, depression and loneliness. What should be connecting us more is in fact causing us to be more distant, to compare and compete with others, to edit ourselves and it encourages us to look externally for our sense of self-worth.
We all grow up being told to fit into certain types of moulds.
The messages we often receive are that standing out or being different is wrong and that showing and expressing emotions and ourselves is bad. These experiences often leave us feeling shamed.
These messages are what have caused us to become a nation that is severed from our true lived experiences. Becoming people stuck in our rational thinking minds and not being taught the embodied language of our senses, feelings and thinking.
In continuing to do this (often times without realising), we are cutting ourselves off from what we truly love and feel passionate about. As we fear the consequences of; rejection, abandonment and the unknown of change.
What then happens is that we look for ways to cope and distract from the fears, anxieties and depressive feelings we may be experiencing from not living life more authentically. Getting addicted or distracted by; work, alcohol, drugs, control, coping, consumerism and the need to 'fit in'.
Part of our work together will be creating a space that allows you to feel safe enough to be vulnerable and also be challenged. Whilst this can be a difficult process, I am here to support you every step of the way.
In order to get there we may need to look at what your life looks like in the present? What things are holding you back and blocking you? What traumas and difficulties have you experienced in the past?
I create a relaxed space for us to explore what you are struggling with in life. Giving you the time and space to talk through the difficulties you are experiencing, but this is only half the story.
Therapy is also about working through the struggle and difficulty so that we can rediscover laughter, joy, what we value and appreciate and what makes us want to get out of bed in the morning! So that we are not just surviving through life, but thriving.
"It is a miserable state of mind to have few things to desire, and many things to fear."
"Are we really living or just walking dead now?"
Janelle Monae - "Sincerely Jane"